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Weekend Miscellany

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This weekend has mostly been a confluence of crazy events and family.  My father, a teacher, set out on his motorcycle two weeks ago and hasn’t been back.  We usually have breakfast every Saturday morning.  He texted me this week to say that he’s east of the Mississippi.  Must be nice to just pick up and go like that.  Hop on the back of a bike with the wind in your hair and see the country. 

Brian’s mom put on a fabulous Thanksgiving in August for us on Saturday.  His sister Julie is here from Virginia, a rare occurrence.  There was a turkey in the freezer.  It really was kismet.  Brian and I brought the Martinelli’s and tried to stay out of their way in the small kitchen.  I brought my knitting and my ukulele, and played while Brian sang LP’s “Into the Wild” for Julie, who had never heard it but loved it.  We went home with many leftovers.  I ate almond green beans and potatoes with gravy most of the weekend.   

I had a job interview scheduled for Monday, and very faded red hair with atrocious roots.  Cue the other sister, mine, who helped me navigate through the complicated world of box dye.  It was much easier than we thought it would be, although it’s a miracle that no one passed out from the toxic fumes.  It still lingers in the bathroom.  I ruined the towel I accidentally stole from Yosemite a month ago.  It is streaked brownish red. 

“So not only are you a thief, you’re also a vandal?” said Brian. 

“Yup,” I said.       

My mother gets back from Maine tonight.  We’re picking her up at the Long Beach airport.  Julie flies out early Thursday morning and she’s bunking at our house Wednesday night.  We’re having beef roll-ups for dinner. 

That’s all.  It’s been a crazy week of comings and goings and family.  I’ve taken a hiatus on writing because I’m making an afghan for a non-blood related family member.  I expect to start draft 3 on the 26th.  In the mean time I’m hooking furiously while listening to much bad TV, and some good TV.  I recommend Netflix’s “Orange and Black.”

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Of Chickens and Pies

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Brian: Is that rooster on the billboard up there named Rex Goliath?

Me: Um, yes I think it is.  If we ever have a rooster, we should really name it Rex Goliath.  Not that we’ll ever have a rooster. 

Brian: Why not?  I want to own chickens some day.

Me: (revolted expression on my face) Why?

Brian: For the eggs, and stuff.

Me: But we hardly ever eat eggs.

Brian: But fresh eggs are extra good.  We’d eat fresh eggs.

Me: I don’t think we would.  I don’t think owning chickens is going to make us super prolific egg eaters.

Brian: Well, you could put them in pies. 

Me: Uh, why am I putting the chickens in pies?

Brian: Not the chickens, the eggs.  What the hell is wrong with you?

Me: (after several minutes of laughing) Lots, but I think that’s a bigger discussion than you want to have right now.  Besides, how many pies am I making?

Brian: I don’t know.  Enough to use up the eggs.  You could bake cakes too.  Like one a week or something.  We’ll move out into the country. 

Me: Unless you want to have a 600 pound wife, I don’t think that’s a viable option. 

Brian: You don’t have to eat them.  You could have a pie and cake stand, and give them out to all our country neighbors.

Me: Because we’ll have thousands of neighbors living in the country.  Also, why am I the one baking stuff.  I think YOU should start a pie stand in the country. 

Brian: Um, what?  I couldn’t possibly, because.  You… it’s your calling. 

Me: Uh huh.

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Superstitious

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I am a superstitious girl of epic proportions.  They probably shouldn’t have let me read the 800 page Dictionary of Superstition because it only got worse.  I knock wood, won’t walk under ladders, and hold my breath when driving by graveyards.  I refuse to walk over piles of dust and always feel guilty that I didn’t buy a new broom when we moved.  I never have red and white flower arrangements. The tips of my candles are always burned.  I could never figure out how to sleep with wedding cake under my pillow without getting fondant ground into the sheets, but I was working on it.  I blame the first year of my marriage partially on the fact that the ceremony was on Thursday.

“Ooh!  A penny!” I said to Brian one day.

“What the heck are you doing?” he asked. 

“I have to put it in my shoe.”

“Uh, why?”

“It was tails and tails pennies are bad luck.  So you put them in your shoe to turn it, and you get the luck after all.”

He looked at me like I was absurd. 

 I don’t know if I should admit it as this is fairly easy to hide, but judge the quality of every day based on a complex rubric of symbols I have made up for myself.  For instance:

Trains are good luck.  The Metrolink used to be a vague part of my day when I worked in Claremont, but now train tracks cross my route to work in five different places.  My bedroom looks out on the train tracks, and the window rattles when the Metrolink blazes past.  There are hierarchies to trains, because not all of them are Metrolink in Orange County.  In fact, Metrolink are the lowest rung of luck because they’re so prolific.  Surfliner trains are lots of luck, and freight trains are the ultimate luck bonanza.  Trains that I see but don’t have to wait for multiply the luck as well. 

Beatles or Simon and Garfunkel songs on the radio are good luck, but only if on the radio and not purposefully played.  Also lucky are the numbers 9, 4, and 6 (in order of luckiness).  Things like the Disney cafeteria having baked potatoes at lunch time are also wrapped up in this, and the way the elevators work at Dodge College.

Since the failed attempt to write my third novel (Psychopomp, about a man who starts to be followed by a murder of crows and then finds out it’s because he’s the next Death) I have also been followed around by crows.  Not in large groups, but one is generally around somewhere waxing fat and glossy and giving me a dirty look.  I’m not sure what this means yet, but I know that I like them.  They make me feel like I’m in an epic.  Standing on the Misty Mountain and looking for advice on what to do about the dragon, perhaps.       

So now that I’ve admitted to being crazy, would you please excuse me?  A black cat walked in, and I have to leave before it tries to cross my path.

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Venice Beach

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Brian’s sister is here from Virginia this week.  Julie is such a combination of boho hippie, crafty housewife, and real estate agent that it is hard to pinpoint her.  But it is easy to love her.  Everyone does.  She makes friends in a sentence.  She looks oddly like Brian, if he were somehow small and pretty.  She has a boisterous laugh.

The hippie portion of Julie used to live in Venice Beach, California, near the boardwalk.  She had a dog of chow red and black tongue whose short hair and square head suggested nothing of chow otherwise.  His name was Bear, and they would go to the beach drum circle together, or to the free feast at the Hare Krishna temple, or just wander the boardwalk.

We attempted to do the same last night, all three of us.  Bear passed away only a few months ago, but we thought of him and his red well-behaved ways.  None of us has been paying attention to the news over the weekend.  We hadn’t heard about the deaths Saturday night.  We arrived at the Hare Krishna temple, but there were no tables set out.  “We’re doing a huge thing on the beach.  There’s no feast here tonight,” the monk in peach robes said when Brian asked him.  So we drove to the beach and parked.

They were disassembling the feast.  Brilliant tents of primary colors made a warren of temporary streets, but most had nothing beneath them any longer except people stacking folding chairs or moving boxes around.  Two booths were handing out flimsy paper plates of whatever was left in their chafing dishes.  Above the canopy, people flew past on a zip line.  The acrid smell of marijuana floated past us from the skate park.

We ate cold and delicious food on a sandy patch of grass.  The fries were sweet, the pasta salad sharp with vinegar, but my favorite was the curry-breaded cauliflower.  Police cars were everywhere.  We watched the black and white SUV’s roll past on the sand.  The sun set behind the hills making black silhouettes of the palm trees.  We could see the drum circle in the distance, listened to the beat wafting on the air.

And then there were sirens.

The police broke up the drum circle.

“I wonder what’s happening,” I said.

“We should go over and find out,” said Julie.

“I don’t know,” said Brian.

“Are you out?” said Julie.  “Yeah, it’s probably better if we don’t go over there.”

“I’m in if you’re in,” I said.  “I’m kinda dying to know what’s happening.”

“Well, let’s get closer anyway,” she said.

There was nothing to see.  By the time we walked a few yards, the circle was gone, disbursed.

“No! I have to know!” I said.

We passed a man holding a drum over his shoulder, gesticulating to a lady near one of the stores.

“Shh!” said Julie.  “See if he says anything.” We laughed, but we all got quiet.  Nothing.

We passed t-shirt stores selling offensive graphics.  I stopped to take a picture of the Venice Beach Freak Show sign.  In a row of apartment buildings, someone had turned their living room into a palmistry boutique.  On the sidewalk, someone had painted a creepy clown face.  Harry Perry rode past on his rollerblades strumming his electric guitar, dreads streaming in the wind beneath his turban.  A man walked past with a dog of chow red.

“Must pat the redness!” said Julie.  So we stopped.

“Too bad about the drum circle, huh?” said the man.

“Yeah, what happened?” I said.  “Why did they break it up?”

“Oh, pot,” he said.  “They’re all over here now because of last night, you know?”

“Last night?” said Brian.

“Yeah, the deaths.  It was on the news, some guy jumped the barrier and killed a bunch of people by driving on the boardwalk.  There’s a vigil down by Rose, and a bunch of news vans.  You know where Rose is?”

“I know where Rose is,” said Julie.

The vigil was small, a five foot square piled with stacks of flowers, votive candles illuminating every spare inch.  Three or four people had lawn chairs out and were tending to the little flames.  Passers-by stopped with bowed heads.  We walked past.  The crowd had grown when we turned around to walk back to our car.  A reporter stood in front of the pile now, microphone in hand.  I thought about what this man would probably be like, intoxicated and confused.  Maybe hopped up on pot like those at the circle.  I felt bad for him, and regretted the choices he made.

NPR had the story on the radio this morning.  It was nothing like I had thought.  This man, although undeniably mentally ill, was not intoxicated with anything.  He drove around the barriers and aimed for pedestrians.  If it hadn’t been for the loud scraping sound of a bicycle his car was dragging in its wake, more people would have died two nights ago.  The man is in custody.  They’re just releasing the names of some of his victims.

According to my professor Tom Zoellner, good Non Fiction is supposed to make a point about something.  I have no points to offer, uness it is this:  Blame the crazy atmosphere that is Venice, blame the lack of barriers on some streets, blame whatever you wish.  “This incident would have been difficult to stop because the individual was determined to harm people,” said the cop on NPR this morning.   It was no one’s fault but the perpetrator.

I can also offer sadness.

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Umm… Top 100 Interview Questions?

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I’ve been on a job search for a while now, filling out application after application and sending my (very impressive) resume out into the ether of the internet.  It’s been complicated, because I’m not looking for just anything.  I want the RIGHT thing at the RIGHT place.  Lately, there’s been a lull in jobs I’m qualified for at the places I would kill to work.  Instead of writing another cover letter, I’ve been preparing for interviews.  It keeps me busy, and it makes me feel like I’m doing something.  

It’s been seven years since I’ve looked for a job.  I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but among the top 100 interview questions are now some of the most asinine things I have ever seen in my life.  I can’t believe these are among the top 100.  I mean, really?  Really?  Here are some of my favorites: 

How would you handle the war in Iraq? Isn’t it over already?  Also, as I have neither military experience nor much information about Iraq as a whole, I would probably just hire someone else to handle it for me.  Nothing like passing the buck. Or getting in an enraged political fight over the worth of George Bush in a job interview.

If you were an animal, which one would you want to be? I would want to be my cat Skippy so I could claw up all the furniture and share a psychic bond with my owner.  He’s a Pisces.

Why is there fuzz on a tennis ball? Because no one is buying my fabulous new invention, the Tennis Ball Razor.  Get 3 for just $9.95.  But wait, there’s more!

What car do you drive? A jalopy named Buford.  He burps gas, but he’s always gotten me where I need to go.

Tell me a joke you find funny. Did you hear about the Scottish drag queen?  He wore pants.

What would you do if you were at a business lunch and the steak you ordered cooked rare was served well done? It is STEAK that I am NOT PAYING FOR!!!  Who cares how it’s cooked, is there anything better than this?  Well, maybe if there was bernaise…   

What is your opinion of me and my interview skills? If these are the questions you’re asking, I think you’d prefer to skip this one…

Sell me this pencil. Sure!! That will be three dollars. 

How would you weigh a plane without scales? The same way I’d weigh a scaly plane. (Ba-doom ching!)

How many times do a clock’s hands overlap in a day? Ooh!  Ooh!  I know this one, because I spend all day staring at the clock!

With your eyes closed, tell me step-by-step how to tie my shoes. I don’t know that I want to be working for a manager who can’t tie their shoes.  

Yes, I do sort of get the purpose of questions like these.  They’re designed to trip you up and assess skills you won’t necessarily show otherwise.  I don’t know, though.  I guess in a job interview I just expect to chat about the job, the qualifications, and decide if we all like each other enough to work together.  No tricks, no games.  I’m probably old fashioned. 

Okay, I’m definitely old fashioned.

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Yosemite

I’m posting Brian’s note about our anniversary trip instead of writing my own.  He feels better about it than I do.  I mean, our tenth anniversary trip was not going to live up to the hype.  I knew that already.  I was just hoping that it would not be filled with all my most glaring faults: my disorganization, my forgetfulness, my inability to physically handle nature, my insecurities about all these faults.  But we did have a good time overall.  I love him lots, and there is no better person to face adversity with. 

Shameless plug:  Brian’s blog is at http://dovearrow.wordpress.com/

The good news is, Casey reserved a tent in Yosemite Valley for the weekend.

The bad news is, she accidentally reserved it for April instead of July.

The good news is, we were still able to get a cabin for the night.

The bad news is, it was 90 degrees outside and we had no air conditioner.

The good news is, the next morning, we were able to hike up to Vernal Falls.

The bad news is, we couldn’t get another room for Saturday night like we hoped.

The good news is, we found a Holiday Inn near Sequoia National Park with air conditioning.

The bad news is, I set Casey’s purse down at General Sherman Tree to take pictures and we left it behind. (Casey edit – it’s so nice that he’s taking credit for my inability to keep track of my purse.  We all know better)

The good news is, we got tickets to tour Crystal Cave.

The bad news is, Casey got the first stages of heat exhaustion on the half mile trip back to the car.

The good news is, when we got home, we had a message on our phone saying they’d found Casey’s purse.

Like our relationship over the years, it was a lot of ups and downs, but like our relationship, we somehow managed to have a lot of fun through it all. I love you, Casey. Here’s to 10 more years of chaos and shenanigans. 🙂

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Things I Learned This Weekend:

The crows at Yosemite say “Pocket, pocket?” in addition to crowing like the normal ones. They are also very fat and glossy.

Western Gray Squirrels hike at the same pace that I do.  Yes, this is very depressing. 

There is a Scandinavian themed restaurant in the raisin capital of the world that has a ten foot tall California Raisin in the lobby.  It also has train, carousel, and medieval weaponry themed décor, and a set of stained glass windows featuring the home life of garden gnomes.  There are black swans in the courtyard.

Of all the things to lose in my purse, it was the National Park passport and the stamps I can never replace that I was the most panicked about.  Although that piano wallet is pretty cute.   

There’s no bed like home (with Air Conditioning!!!!).

 

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Menagerie

Sometimes working at Disney is awesome.  Evidence is below.

Me this morning: So Zachary said we really need to keep the monkeys.  But what he didn’t realize was that there were a whole bunch of monkeys that aren’t show quality and need to be destroyed.

Overheard several weeks ago:  I don’t know, you’d better have them leave the lights on.  We’re going to need to shave the rabbits, and we can’t shave rabbits in the dark.  

Overheard a few days before the last:  Yeah, Lincoln is leaking again, so we’ll have to have an audio animatronics person change his diaper.

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The Magic Of Interlibrary Loan

Chapman revoked my library card last week.  It’s because I’m not a student there anymore, and not because of the late fees I’ve paid every semester.  No really.  I promise.  I always return things eventually, and I always pay.  They like kids like me.  They’re making money off of my inability to keep dates straight, and I get to read amazing things.  It works for both of us.  Or it worked for both of us.

I’ve been forlorn about not having access anymore.  Interlibrary loan is my favorite thing in the entire world.  The Chapman Interlibrary Loan people are some of the best around, and they can get ANYTHING.  When I was writing my senior thesis, the man behind the marble front counter handed me a crumbling something between two duct taped sheets of cardboard.

“For library use only,” he said.  “You can’t take it out.” 

“Can I copy it, if I need to?” I asked. 

“Yeah, no problem.”

I went to the collection of armchairs on the second floor.  Wide windows look out on the piazza below where water pools between four square pillars.  I sank into a chair and lifted a corner of the cover.  It was about the size of a half sheet of paper, a yellowed pamphlet about the importance of sign language written in 1914 by the National Association of the Deaf.  It was not a copy.  It was the actual pamphlet.  I almost cried.  It was just so beautiful.  I still have the black and white duplicates I made in a brown, faux leather binder at home.

“I once got an actual 18th century French field manual through Interlibrary Loan,” said the dedicated History librarian when I told him about it. 

This is in addition to all the amazing books the library always has.  I’ve worked my way through the large section they have on Deaf culture, all the books on the American Puritans, and cut a swath through the vast Young Adult section.  They have the entire collection of Neil Gaiman’s Sandman series, and I keep thinking I need to read them all.  It seems that whatever my latest obsession becomes, they have the books to support the habit. 

All is not completely lost.  I found out from a newsletter that I can get a special alumni library card.  I did a little dance sitting at my work computer when I found out.  It takes seven days for my card to travel through the mail, after I fill out the form and upload a head shot.  I pulled up the website immediately, and clicked through to the privileges an Alumni card gives.  Interlibrary Loan is not one of those things. 

I get it.  That department has enough to do, tracking down obscure copies of primary source material for the people who are actually studying or working there.  I’m disappointed, though.  As wonderful as their library is, I can’t order up snippets of the past and pick them up two weeks later.   I can’t touch the pages people touched hundreds of years ago.  I will never again take a duct taped sleeve of cardboard from the hands of the person at the front desk and uncover more than I thought was possible.   

It’s enough to make a girl want to get a Master’s Degree.

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Ten Years

It was hot and muggy the day I got married.  The earth was buried in wisps of hot cloud, and alligator drops landed on our shoulders as we stood at the altar.  My hair was terribly frizzy, with no hope that it would ever be otherwise.  But it was a beautiful event, a beautiful day, and we looked young and happy in the pictures as was proper.  I looked at my father, face buried in his handkerchief, felt the warm drops on my shoulders, and thought that both my fathers were crying – the mortal and the immortal.  Tears pooled in my eyes, too.  I let them spill over and thought to myself, damn it, I can’t believe I lost the bet on who would cry first.

It is a scant six days from my ten year anniversary, and the same sort of rain is pouring from the sky right now.  My hair is as frizzy as it was on that day, but everything else has changed immeasurably.  We are not living in an apartment where the alley is sprayed with graffiti every night where our things were continually stolen.  We both have jobs.  There are two cars in our garage.     

We’re going away, the 19th-21st.  It’s not the honeymoon I never got like I hoped it would be.  Student loans and part-time employment saw to that.  But it will be nice, and romantic.  Brian is not allowed to know where we’re going until we get there, so I won’t tell the internet either.  The clues he has are that it’s a bit of a drive, it’s still in California, and it is sort of like camping, but really not like camping at all.  Tantalizing, isn’t it?  I have a wide grin on my face, and my eyes are sparkling at your frustration.  This is half the fun.

Ten feels a lot like three, and a lot like seven, and a lot like all the other years in between.  We always wake up underneath our white down comforter, look at each other, and say “can you believe it?”  This year, I really can’t.

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